BoringYetGraceful

Note to the reader: Everything written here is an opinion, and I'm not an expert. Consult professionals for better information. Thank you.

Know this, my beloved brothers: let every person be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger; for the anger of man does not produce the righteousness of God. — James 1:19-20

Anger or getting angry is okay. It's a normal emotion of a normal human being but sometimes humans tends to be abnormal and it's not okay. Specially when you want your anger to be validated even it is not. Human emotions are complicated, and we like to choose that way because we have reasons.

Positively its fine, as it release you from pain. Negatively anger results in bad stuff like murder. Can't imagine someone getting released from their pain if they ended someone life. That's insanity.

Take It Slow

Our heart beats fast when we are angry. Our inner being wanted something to control to, like losing in an argument or you get cut in a line where you stay for hours, well you're really get angry on that.

Controlling anger leads us to have options. When you take the fast lane, that will end in war but when you take it slow, to understand things and yourself. You're promoting peace to others and to yourself also.

This process is hard at first but its rewarding of you don't want to have a highblood pressure and have a sudden heart attack. Our heart aren't good in fast pace especially if it's emotionally driven in a negative way.

Process

As you choose not to get angry. Process is the next thing. Why did you get a get angry? What is the best reaction instead of getting angry? This leads us to have more options. See, getting angry is easy but the opposite is difficult but the path to easy life is hard, take note on that and that includes on that getting quickly angry.

Anger is a quick fix thing, the opposite takes a lot of process like cooking a food that have a number of ingredients and dozen of process. Will you choose a fast food over a healthy food?

Be angry and do not sin; do not let the sun go down on your anger, — Ephesians 4:26

Let It Go ASAP

As stated above, anger wants something to release, e.g. ending someones life. To be not angry, you must release the anger itself ASAP. Some people can process but they'll not let go. In the end, it will return and will go in cycle. That's why the best solution is let it go ASAP.

For me, I follow the Bible verse above. There is no peace if I kept this negativity in me, given that I'm a Christian, and it was stated in the Bible. Anger must be let go before the sun goes down, I take that literally. God forgives us, why we can't forgive if we are already forgiven by Him. For a Christian reading this, are you able to live those verses mentioned above?