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Handling Misplaced Emotion

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Misplaced items are easily forgotten but misplaced emotions are a different set of story to deal with. When the former is found, joy can surely spark while on the latter, something is taken away but it gave a different spark but it wasn't joy, it is pain.

The meaning of misplaced emotion I'll talked here is, you invest an emotion in a certain someone which not supposed to be for that person. That person returned it somehow, but in the end it's like divorcing the two that became one in front of the altar. I won't talk about divorce here but it's younger version before the vows happen.

This is dedicated for the sailors (Pinoy Christian singles) that struggle to take part of that certain journey.

Beautiful Memory Lane of Regrets

Regret is bitter and also beautiful if you look from a different point of view. Don't just look at it from your own eyes, do also try to look it from others as well. See and feel the pain coming from others. It's like a beautiful painting worth staring for a certain period of time but the time already came to dispatch it out from your view.

They are like unwanted storms on your journey that will make you suffer in pain and it's up to you if you'll move forward or return from the comfort of the known paths you have taken before. Surely these kind of things will come to pass and you will be prepare on the next one that will come.

The Cultivation of One Self

Forget yourself and continue. It depends on how you handle regrets but the best cure for that is trust God on the process of cultivating you. This part is not about love yourself thing, but it's about growing in beauty for the Lord. He never misplaced an emotion to us. It was fully given before He created us. His eyes are already set upon us.

I will not expand this, but how to grow in beauty for God? Meditate in His Word, prayer, devotion, and fellowship with other sailors who also pursue to grow in beauty for Him.

The Flight Through the Next Storm

Face the future with utmost care as you grow. Ships don't fly but lets just think of it that it will. The next storm will be rough for sure but you're not already the captain of the ship, only a sailor that was hit by something, but now you're ready to take flight and face that certain journey.

The sailors responsibility (you and me) and the captain's will go together, God, go hand in hand in the journey. He knows the best things for you and for your good but its not always walk in the park. Soon once Jesus return, it will be a walk in the streets of gold. How romantic is that?

One thing I can say is, trust the Captain of your ship.

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If You Can't Define The Relationship. Have You Ever Wondered Why You Need To Fall In Love In The First Place?

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It's A Decision

Falling in love is the same as falling into sin. You choose it, and then you end up blaming somebody for falling in love in the first place, such as cupid or destiny. When things get difficult, you'll do the same thing again.

As I illustrate it, you're on top of a staircase, and she's beneath it. Your gaze was drawn to her, and you leapt, hoping she would catch you. Did you really think about why you wanted to jump?

The DTR moments are when you're up in the air, wondering if she'll catch you or not. A defined relationship begins when she or he catches you.

Undefined romantic relationships leave scars and cause someone to be hurt. You can only define things if you have a solid foundation of why you chose to go there and where you truly want to go.

Where Do You Want to Go

If Jesus is the captain of your ship (life), He is also the author of your story, including your romantic love story, which is only one of the ship's cabins.

Falling in love is a cool term, but marriage is a deep word if you add to it, and yet they go together. What happens if you jump the stairs and then fall? Marriage. Does it make you smile? Or are you just testing the boiling waters?

It's like taking the ship's steering wheel from the captain's hands and ending up on rocky beach heads or struggling when a storm comes.

God knows where we want to go, and His plans are far superior to ours. Trusting God in romance is difficult, but there is pain on the other side of the sweetness of love. Does God want us to suffer? It is up to us to decide whether or not we truly trust Him.

Marriage is important, as is having children and grandchildren, and there is a lot more of it. Again, you took that leap into the unknown; do you truly desire to go there, aka Marriage?

Beyond DTR Once Defined

When it comes to romance, as they say, clarity is extremely important. That is why you must understand your why and where you absolutely want to go. When the relationship is defined, it's either a win or a loss, but if you're prepared, you won't have to worry.

For the guys, man up and don't just go fling fling lang. For the ladies, strengthen your defenses not only physically but also emotionally. As it is written, guard your heart; this also applies to men. Our entire being is a priceless package, so think twice before diving into romance.

It takes courage to define the relationship, pero wala namang mawawala kung magtatanong ka. Kung sumabak ka sa gyera na ito sigurado naman na handa kang masaktan.

There is sweetness once things are defined, lalo na kung nag-aasam ka ng kasal at ready na masakal. On the other hand, there's bitterness if you're not careful. Immature people are like ships at war within themselves, attempting to collide with other ships.

We are like ships on a journey; if Jesus is already at the reins, there should be no troubles, unless we rebel.

In the midst of a vast sea of people. He has prepared someone for us to meet. The harbor of marriage awaits, and then a new ship is constructed from the two ships, which have now become one.

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