BoringYetGraceful

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This is a part of a writing challenge.

What are the best things to do for the last few days of this year?

Eat Samgyup

You can take this advice for real or not. it's up to you. It's a wonderful Korean food that takes over the Filipino palette due to the unlimited aspect of the restaurant that opened here. Yet it still depends on how the meat is cooked and the mix. It's not just about filling yourself a ton of meat. The taste still matters.

Reflection

How did this year go well with you? If you take life for granted, I'm sure reflection about life is not a part of your routine unless something happens that really shit you out of the blue. Ask yourself some questions about your life. The internet is a good source of self reflection ideas if you're not familiar with it. I did this before when I remember doing it, lol.

Planning

After reflecting on the past year, then comes the planning for the future. Life is not easy unless you have a ton of money, but having more money doesn't mean life would be easier. You will be prone to kidnapping and burglar, and bad people will chase you and hire some private army to guard you. That's what you called planning.

This is a part of a writing challenge

We lose our patience when we overthink, but to have more patience is to think more mindfully. Patience is virtue, but that virtue must be into action, practice, and tested. Life is full of tests compared to what we had encountered from school. The grading is not just about getting a passing grade. The result sometimes gives birth to more tests and problems.

Thinking mindfully is knowing everything, what is in your mind, and where it must go. It would be difficult, but it is worth a million smiles and peace in your heart rather than having an anxiety overthinking. Every hard challenge gives an easy life; patience is easier said than done; that's why what all you need is to think more.

This is a part of a writing challenge

Recently, the appeal of jazz music was enchanting to my ears, though I knew the genre years ago as someone who listened and played music. I don't listen to it a lot as my musical taste is different. I learned to play guitars, then automatically I was introduced to pop, rock, and metal. The only thing I knew about jazz is when the chords of certain songs would have m7/M7 chords. My perspective would be, “Oh, that's sounds jazzy.” And the drums swings a lot, and I called it Dixie land kind of jazz, but I'm wrong.

When I'm interested in a certain genre what would I do is look for top recommendation from known sources and through that I begin my journey. Well, the musicians that introduce to me is the Chick Corea Electrik Band. I'm into guitars back then, and into the technique called sweep picking, that points me to Frank Gambale which is a member of the Electrik Band. The genre of the band is jazz fusion. Its leaning to rock with jazz elements but this list open me more to the world of jazz music.

“It takes an intelligent ear to listen to jazz” — Art Blakey

This is a writing challenge for me. I am hoping to write consecutively for 30 days. Then what should I write? I don't know. I'll just let my mind wander and keep the words flow.

I will create a return post during the 3rd, 5th, 7th, 10th, 15th, 20th, 25th, and lastly, the 30th day. The consecutive days are optional. Only a space of 1 day is valid.

As I said before, from my previous post. My goal here is to have 100 chapters. See you.

Learned to play guitars accidentally in the 2nd year of my high school. The guitar at home was there before I was born. My old man is a country dude, and my big bro plays the instruments too.

It's a sudden enthusiasm for me to play a song from that Xtian song magazine that my big bro brought along with a CD that contains it minus-one tunes. I still remember struggling to play “As The Deer,” “In Your Hands,” and “I Offer My Life”.

Chord Chart was my best friend. Thanks to that magazine, and a few words of wisdom from my old man. I must study first the basic 3 finger chords and make them sound whole, not tunog kabag. My strumming is a different story. This took weeks before entering to learn a song.

My first song I learned was In Your Hands by Hillsong and Numb by Linkin Park. Please see the chords for those songs why I chose those. It took me some weeks again to play and sing along, man, that was difficult.

The learning journey was satisfying, which made my parents angry because after school, I just played guitars for hours (learning the chords and song and strummed my heart out while singing lol)

Yup, those are the days, I'm so freaking happy learning a piece either from church or secular and figuring them out, that made me buy song hits. Kahit 1 kanta lang naman habol mo, bibilhin mo yung isang issue.

Timing and playing by feel is a different story (will talk differently on that). If your enthusiasm is high in learning the song and the background of how to learn things in and out, that would build you up to advanced stuff in guitar.

Kung yung basic di mo magawa, tapos gusto mag ala-Malmsteen. Mangosteen bagsak mo sir. Wala akong interest sa totoo lang to play lead guitars, eh sana shred shred na din ako agad noong simula? I prefer na poste lang ako (which mahirap din).

Note to the reader: Everything written here is an opinion, and I'm not an expert. Consult professionals for better information. Thank you.

Know this, my beloved brothers: let every person be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to anger; for the anger of man does not produce the righteousness of God. — James 1:19-20

Anger or getting angry is okay. It's a normal emotion of a normal human being but sometimes humans tends to be abnormal and it's not okay. Specially when you want your anger to be validated even it is not. Human emotions are complicated, and we like to choose that way because we have reasons.

Positively its fine, as it release you from pain. Negatively anger results in bad stuff like murder. Can't imagine someone getting released from their pain if they ended someone life. That's insanity.

Take It Slow

Our heart beats fast when we are angry. Our inner being wanted something to control to, like losing in an argument or you get cut in a line where you stay for hours, well you're really get angry on that.

Controlling anger leads us to have options. When you take the fast lane, that will end in war but when you take it slow, to understand things and yourself. You're promoting peace to others and to yourself also.

This process is hard at first but its rewarding of you don't want to have a highblood pressure and have a sudden heart attack. Our heart aren't good in fast pace especially if it's emotionally driven in a negative way.

Process

As you choose not to get angry. Process is the next thing. Why did you get a get angry? What is the best reaction instead of getting angry? This leads us to have more options. See, getting angry is easy but the opposite is difficult but the path to easy life is hard, take note on that and that includes on that getting quickly angry.

Anger is a quick fix thing, the opposite takes a lot of process like cooking a food that have a number of ingredients and dozen of process. Will you choose a fast food over a healthy food?

Be angry and do not sin; do not let the sun go down on your anger, — Ephesians 4:26

Let It Go ASAP

As stated above, anger wants something to release, e.g. ending someones life. To be not angry, you must release the anger itself ASAP. Some people can process but they'll not let go. In the end, it will return and will go in cycle. That's why the best solution is let it go ASAP.

For me, I follow the Bible verse above. There is no peace if I kept this negativity in me, given that I'm a Christian, and it was stated in the Bible. Anger must be let go before the sun goes down, I take that literally. God forgives us, why we can't forgive if we are already forgiven by Him. For a Christian reading this, are you able to live those verses mentioned above?

“I have made a covenant with my eyes; How then could I gaze at a virgin? — Job 31:1

How can a young man keep his way pure? By keeping it according to Your word. — Psalm 119:9

Your word I have treasured in my heart, That I may not sin against You. — Psalm 119:11

I don't know, maybe in most Christian weddings, the ceremonial “you may kiss the bride” wasn't their first kiss at all. If you're a Christian guy and also for the gals reading this thing, look at those verses above and take some time to embrace the book of Romans. I know the struggle is real, but God's mercy is new every morning.

Now you're thinking, why does the title don't have a relation to the opening part, well that's life. Gusto ko ng click bait!

Leveling up in life (Christian life) takes a lot of courage and time , and your spiritual life is tested too, always naman. I'm not an expert on these things, but I'll just throw some quick words. Parang car crash videos lang, sa isang iglap...life changing sya “ano tong pinanood ko?”

Be Founded In Christ

The sweet and landian moments are given, but if you're a Christian couple who love God the most. Take time to be rooted in Him individually & together. I won't elaborate pero dapat given na din yung: pray together, read the Bible together, do a devotion together, and it's the men who must lead these things.

I know, guys love physical stuff (mga kamay na hindi alam saan patungo) pero kamusta naman kung hatakin ka ni Satanas sa kadiliman at wala kang panlaban? Maski yung babad sa Bible nadadale boi, matindi ang laban sa part na ito, eh paano yung hindi?

Stand Beautifully

Once founded, then you can stand together beautifully. Easier said than done. Relationships takes time to build parang mga projects ng SMC, SMDC, at DMCI etc. Our relationships can stand on our own, but those founded in God are beautiful and sweet and maybe sour? Syempre if magtagal masasabi mo pa din may asim pa kayo, lol.

For His Glory

You stand together beautiful for His glory alone. The chief end of man is to enjoy God forever. Well for a couple who devoted their relationship to the Author, the goal is not just having kids, a house, a car, travel the universe, etc. It is to glorify the Author of life and the love that they have and proclaim who He is in their life.

We love, because He first loved us. — 1 John 4:19

Proverbs 18:21 NASB1995 Death and life are in the power of the tongue, And those who love it will eat its fruit.

The tongue is a double edge sword. It can fabricate anything, from peace to war and everything in between. It's been tested ages ago and this proverbs prove it, that's Solomon for you.

As someone who is hot headed and “maikli ang pisi”, ay talagang masusubukan yung pasenya ng dila. The fruit can be sweet or bitter. You will know it once you experience it. That's why some says “tame the tongue”, and I can say its a good remedy. Christ is the cure.

Developing a habit is difficult, but you can start small like what I did recently. 5 knee pushups, or an elevated one, and that will do it. Writing or reflecting in your journal for a minute or 5. Small adjustments are worth it.

Note: This is originally posted in a blog I created and deleted, named: Pinoy Habits, last 2018.

1. Know Your Why – Stop blaming and find why your always got late. One way to find this is ask yourself why for 5 times. It's a method to find key problems in businesses and factories when there's something got wrong. If you use the why for 5 times and still didn't found the real reason, don't stop until you make it. The 5 whys is your guide for it. Use it to beat your tardiness.

2. Create Time Blocks or Schedule – Write down your tasks of the day, starting from the end to the start. Time blocks assures you that you must do specific tasks in specific time and writing it backwards ascertain the amount of time you need for all the actions you must perform: 6:00 Leave Office, 9:00-6:00 Work, 8:30 Leave House, 7:00 Breakfast/Get Ready, 6:00 Exercise/Jogging, 5:00 Wake up.

3. Get Organized – Maybe your always late because your room is like Divisoria, instead of leaving home early. You spend an hour looking for that door key. Organize your things in such a way, you can get them in ease. You can use the Japanese way of sorting things: a. Tie (Where to put) – Decide the location where to put something b. Tie Hin (What to put) – Decide what item needs to put c. Tie Rio (How much to put)

4. Get Excited – If you don't want to be late, get excited on the event or task that you will do. Just think those children who are excited for their field trips and those who will watch new release movies in cinemas. They are early in the waiting line so they can have a good seat.

5. Make Gradual Changes – You're always 1 hour late, try some tips in this list to improve on time. From 1 hour, then 45 minutes, then 30 then 15 minutes until you reach the goal of not being late. In the process you will be aware of the things that affect your tardiness and in your self why your late.

6. Know Your Limitation – If beating Filipino Time (tardiness) wasn't easy and everyone know your always in that mode. You can make an excuse and inform your friends or your boss that you'll be late. Make a consideration but don't end everything here. Your goals is to beat this bad habit.

7. Create Accountability – Ask a friend and create challenges and add stakes (below) this will make you and your friend accountable to each other. Accountability makes a good habit stronger because you compete to each other and you don't want to be late forever and pay for his lunch.

8. Add Stakes – Money is big issue for Filipinos and we hate losing it. I experienced this from my last job. 5 pesos for every 30 minutes and will pay in the end of month. The higher the stake (1000 pesos)much better or donate that money to any organizations that you don't want to support. I know you'll beat tardiness or loss money

9. Commit – Write in a paper and post in your Facebook wall that you will never be late again and being on Filipino Time is not in your blood. If everyone see this from your family to your workplace, they will look forward to you no to be late. This will get you excited and thrilled.

So now that you have 9 ways to beat Filipino Time (tardiness) kababayan. How about add a 10th one that you know that can help to beat this bad habit?