BoringYetGraceful

Handling Misplaced Emotion

Misplaced items are easily forgotten but misplaced emotions are a different set of story to deal with. When the former is found, joy can surely spark while on the latter, something is taken away but it gave a different spark but it wasn't joy, it is pain.

The meaning of misplaced emotion I'll talked here is, you invest an emotion in a certain someone which not supposed to be for that person. That person returned it somehow, but in the end it's like divorcing the two that became one in front of the altar. I won't talk about divorce here but it's younger version before the vows happen.

This is dedicated for the sailors (Pinoy Christian singles) that struggle to take part of that certain journey.

Beautiful Memory Lane of Regrets

Regret is bitter and also beautiful if you look from a different point of view. Don't just look at it from your own eyes, do also try to look it from others as well. See and feel the pain coming from others. It's like a beautiful painting worth staring for a certain period of time but the time already came to dispatch it out from your view.

They are like unwanted storms on your journey that will make you suffer in pain and it's up to you if you'll move forward or return from the comfort of the known paths you have taken before. Surely these kind of things will come to pass and you will be prepare on the next one that will come.

The Cultivation of One Self

Forget yourself and continue. It depends on how you handle regrets but the best cure for that is trust God on the process of cultivating you. This part is not about love yourself thing, but it's about growing in beauty for the Lord. He never misplaced an emotion to us. It was fully given before He created us. His eyes are already set upon us.

I will not expand this, but how to grow in beauty for God? Meditate in His Word, prayer, devotion, and fellowship with other sailors who also pursue to grow in beauty for Him.

The Flight Through the Next Storm

Face the future with utmost care as you grow. Ships don't fly but lets just think of it that it will. The next storm will be rough for sure but you're not already the captain of the ship, only a sailor that was hit by something, but now you're ready to take flight and face that certain journey.

The sailors responsibility (you and me) and the captain's will go together, God, go hand in hand in the journey. He knows the best things for you and for your good but its not always walk in the park. Soon once Jesus return, it will be a walk in the streets of gold. How romantic is that?

One thing I can say is, trust the Captain of your ship.

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Cough And Cupcakes

written in Taglish

There was a time in my life after eating the well known Filipino brand cupcake for kids as a baon in school. I had a cough because of it. Due to my poor immune system the cough had a phlegm and it's a green one.

Nabilaukan lang naman ako, walang tubig na nabigay sakin agad, kasi naglalaro kami noon sa kalsada. How can I forgot that one. After recovering from a fever, I was able to go to school. Guess what? I have no voice due to the phlegm.

By the way, this cycle happened except there's no cupcakes involved. I was force to have a physical exertion, to train my lungs.

I still remember I had a fever during highschool, and I hate it. What I did is I go to a ride. Weared the normal cycling outfit like what you see in LeTour except no helmets and out I go to the road. During that steep climb at Daang Kuba, something dripping from my nose to the handle bar and got stick to my hand gloves.

I'm laughing, coughing and exhausted once I got home. The next few days, the cough is gone.

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Sa Kabilang Dako

Ang buhay ng tao parang gulong. Minsan nasa taas, minsan nasa baba. Yung iba, walang gulong, kaya nagulungan na lang. Yung gulong ng palad naging nagulungang palad na. Tapos traksikel pa nakadali, eh plat pa? Nadali na.

Ano ba pakiramdam ng kaning lamig na naitsapwera na, kasi may bagong saing na eh? Sinong ba titira ng bahaw na matigas? Kasi pag nilagay mo naman sa ibabaw ng bagong saing baka mapanis agad. Di bale na lang kung yung bahaw eh kagabi o kanina lang sinaing at naka-fridge siya.

Unang baitang pa lang yung kaning lamig. Susunod doon eh yung para ka na lang hangin. Trahedya sa lahat yun. Pinilit mong makarating, dumaong ka naman pero walang tauspusong tumanggap sayo. Hangin ka nga.

Siguro maglokohan na lang ta'yo ne?

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Thoughts In My Devotion

For those who read the suppose to be ch.15, gomenasai-desu. Writer's block hit me on that one but I hope part 1 somehow helps.

Thoughts on my devotion today. It's about dealing with uncertainties in life. Part of me already abandoned planning because I'm not good dealing with uncertainties. They're pain in the head and heart, but the other half of me is striving to deal with it. Only by the grace of God.

So it came about, when Moses held his hand up, that Israel prevailed; but when he let his hand down, Amalek prevailed. And Moses’ hands were heavy. So they took a stone and put it under him, and he sat on it; and Aaron and Hur supported his hands, one on one side and one on the other. So his hands were steady until the sun set. And Joshua defeated Amalek and his people with the edge of the sword. — Exodus 17:11-13

The devotion talks about what can we do during times of uncertainty that we must acknowledge our limitations. Given the fact we are sinners, we cannot save ourselves in the first place. Though by world standards we can be like Elon Musk or Jeff Bezos but this world cannot offer what God can do, never. If ma-chugi yung dalawa tapos na. Lalo kung walang Kristo sa puso nila.

The verse above talks about what Moses did during their battle with the Amalekites. The devotion had 2 points.

Cling to the One who knows your future

So true naman, Jeff and Elon future is...we dont know, si Lord lang nakakaalam but for a Christian dapat clingy ka dapat kay Lord (hindi sa jowa). Like that old pastoral joke when they do child dedication (not christening), “idinidikit natin sila kay Lord from the start”. Moses in that verse lifts his hand to call unto God. Same with Jehoshaphat when Judah was in trouble and they call in prayer:

and he said, “O Lord, the God of our fathers, are You not God in the heavens? And are You not ruler over all the kingdoms of the nations? Power and might are in Your hand so that no one can stand against You. Did You not, O our God, drive out the inhabitants of this land before Your people Israel and give it to the descendants of Abraham Your friend forever? — 2 Chronicles 20:6-7

Well many men cling to God during their time of uncertainty. Please check Hebrews 11. Yung iba nag quit na, then sa sobrang tahimik narinig nya boses ni Lord. And also God has a better plan for our good for those who trust Him and follow His will.

‘For I know the plans that I have for you,’ declares the LORD, ‘plans for prosperity and not for disaster, to give you a future and a hope. — Jeremiah 29:11

And we know that God causes all things to work together for good to those who love God, to those who are called according to His purpose. — Romans 8:28

Allow trusted people to come alongside you

God gave us people to support us in times of need. As well yung mga tao na toxic sa buhay natin. Syempre nangalay si Moses kakataas ng braso nya, then Aaron and Hur came to the rescue to support him and they achieved victory. Job is a different story.

I'm a slightly introvert and I only have a couple of persons I can really run to in times of need. I think it's not about the quantity but the qualities of the person you can run to.

Some suggest to get away from toxic person, others suggest to find some gurus and coaches but what if that toxic person pala ang tunay na support? Like that time a Samaritan helped a Jew. Also insert Jonathan during David's critical time with Saul.

Uncertainties surely fuels us to run to our Maker.

From the devotional:

The victories achieved in uncertain seasons are rarely due to our own strength—they’re a result of clinging to God and relying on others to support us. It is the faithfulness of God that sees us through the storms of life, and when we acknowledge that, we create space for God to show up and show off in our weaknesses.

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Today

Finished Part 1 of When God Writes Your Love Story. Back when I read this book when I was 15 y/o, it's an eye opener. Ang cool lang. Big bro even wrote his thesis titled “Teenage Romance, A Premature Intimacy” back in his Bible school days. Wala pa BWPH, nananampal na sya ng cactus noon.

Fast forward, here I am 32 y/o, things in romance and stuff got modernized. I only find out recently the meaning of ghosting. Then BWPH call More Than Friends, Less Than Lover...a ninja. There was a chapter about that in the book but not doing ninja moves as far as I know.

If you really want to pursue and be faithful with God in context in the center of everything, that includes romance. Magloloko ka ba kung naranasan mo ng madapa at bumagsak una mukha once?

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The Current Situation

written in Tagalog-English

When problem comes, they come like an unknown extended family barging your home and leaving you shock, didn't even know what happened.

While writing this, a typhoon is hitting our precious country. Please pray for the Philippines, we already have casualties and the livelihood of our countrymen is damaged again.

I'm writing this one using my phone, at the comfort of my room with a sibol in the floor. Epic lang, buti nasa isang sulok lang.

Have mercy on me, my God, have mercy on me, for in you I take refuge. I will take refuge in the shadow of your wings until the disaster has passed. Psalms 57:1 NIV

The bottom line of this current situation is humble our selves and take heart to take refuge in Him. The verse above is written by David when he was in trouble and his life is at stake.

I know the situation now compare to David is different, yet it points to the one who is worth entrusting our lives. The life giver Himself, God.

Like what happeed today. As I prepare for the day, umulan ng malakas nung papasok na ako, pambihira! Part of me is naiinis na, but on the other hand, I choose to be grateful kasi may work ako at Saturday work pa nga. Unfortunately due to the pandemic, some lost their jobs.

Kahit basang sisiw pagdating sa opis. My heart is glad running to Him in moments na, alam nyo na. “Lord bakit na naman umuulan! Long weekend ah!”

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A Background

Nothing significant for this post. It's Friday today and the typhoon is on the way. Also, the long weekend was lessen by a day, instead of a four. Life is unfair.

I'll just tell the background of the former post. I was inspired to write something about romance so I decide to add something from Boiling Waters PH first podcast episode after listening to it. I know it can go deeper pa pero hanggang doon na lang ang kaya ko.

I made an outline for that and think a lot. Everything was written based from my 2 cents, about my faith and as well my experience.

I made the jump without thinking, asked God for help and tried to control it. Call it a laban-bawi. Ayun na nga. For those who know the story. I already move on. God is a sweeter song than everything life can offer.

His sweetness doesn't give you a type-2 diabetes, it's more than natural because He Himself is the only true source of the sweetness itself.

Try listening to this song version from Shane and Shane.

'Tis so sweet to trust in Jesus Just to take Him at His Word Just to rest upon His promise Just to know, “Thus saith the Lord!”

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If You Can't Define The Relationship. Have You Ever Wondered Why You Need To Fall In Love In The First Place?

It's A Decision

Falling in love is the same as falling into sin. You choose it, and then you end up blaming somebody for falling in love in the first place, such as cupid or destiny. When things get difficult, you'll do the same thing again.

As I illustrate it, you're on top of a staircase, and she's beneath it. Your gaze was drawn to her, and you leapt, hoping she would catch you. Did you really think about why you wanted to jump?

The DTR moments are when you're up in the air, wondering if she'll catch you or not. A defined relationship begins when she or he catches you.

Undefined romantic relationships leave scars and cause someone to be hurt. You can only define things if you have a solid foundation of why you chose to go there and where you truly want to go.

Where Do You Want to Go

If Jesus is the captain of your ship (life), He is also the author of your story, including your romantic love story, which is only one of the ship's cabins.

Falling in love is a cool term, but marriage is a deep word if you add to it, and yet they go together. What happens if you jump the stairs and then fall? Marriage. Does it make you smile? Or are you just testing the boiling waters?

It's like taking the ship's steering wheel from the captain's hands and ending up on rocky beach heads or struggling when a storm comes.

God knows where we want to go, and His plans are far superior to ours. Trusting God in romance is difficult, but there is pain on the other side of the sweetness of love. Does God want us to suffer? It is up to us to decide whether or not we truly trust Him.

Marriage is important, as is having children and grandchildren, and there is a lot more of it. Again, you took that leap into the unknown; do you truly desire to go there, aka Marriage?

Beyond DTR Once Defined

When it comes to romance, as they say, clarity is extremely important. That is why you must understand your why and where you absolutely want to go. When the relationship is defined, it's either a win or a loss, but if you're prepared, you won't have to worry.

For the guys, man up and don't just go fling fling lang. For the ladies, strengthen your defenses not only physically but also emotionally. As it is written, guard your heart; this also applies to men. Our entire being is a priceless package, so think twice before diving into romance.

It takes courage to define the relationship, pero wala namang mawawala kung magtatanong ka. Kung sumabak ka sa gyera na ito sigurado naman na handa kang masaktan.

There is sweetness once things are defined, lalo na kung nag-aasam ka ng kasal at ready na masakal. On the other hand, there's bitterness if you're not careful. Immature people are like ships at war within themselves, attempting to collide with other ships.

We are like ships on a journey; if Jesus is already at the reins, there should be no troubles, unless we rebel.

In the midst of a vast sea of people. He has prepared someone for us to meet. The harbor of marriage awaits, and then a new ship is constructed from the two ships, which have now become one.

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a poem written back AD2020 at BoilingWatersPH website but wasn't approve. I took it and now here it is.

You came from behind along with your brush strokes that I hardly find. I'll never forget looking at you while you trace those diagonal lines Is this a sign? We rarely cross paths face to face. But I'm still wondering if I can run this race. Once more, should I wait for the sunrise or chase this sunset?

Allow myself to put this to the test to see if my feet is ready to curve new lines. I only had these phrases for you so that these feelings will fly. Yes, you are dazzling in my eyes and also those hands I admire. Your color palette reflects who you are on the inside.

Now I must conclude; the words have already left my mouth. I'll never hope or wish for you to be mine. Unless it comes from above, Who created everything on time. For those who believe in Him, everything is worth the wait. The One above who gives everything along this kind of line.

#poem

originally posted: October 22, 2022

Life is full of surprise, you did expect that it will be a sunny day then around after lunch dark clouds covered the sky and there was rain. Eh nasa SB ka nagrerelax, tapos yung sinampay mo na-gg na ng ulan, saan ka pa? Relax gone.

It's been a while again, akala nyo wala na ne? ikaw ba naman tamaan ng lagnat 2 consecutive time, nasira din yung sched ng balik alindog session, sad but thats life, what can I do, all I can is trust God, and pray and let His will be done in my life. Lord ano ba plano sa topic na yun?

For those who read the randomness of everything I wrote since the genesis of this written blog, thank you. Isipin nyo na lang kunwari, life update to na vlog. Hi mga ka-boring? kamusta naman ang buhay natin? maayos pa ba? kaya pa ba? if hindi na, hold and don't let go! Supper optimist lang, pero sa bagay na yun hindi.

From the previous weeks yun nagkasakit and then yup, work is busy as usual. Still grateful to God as we did celebrate birthdays and anniversaries. Nakakatuwa lang if your household chose God and serve Him, life will not be the same, for sure every family have their own journey.

To us, as for those who know, ewan ko if nasabi ko na, sa bahay minsan wala minsan meron, minsan sobra, that came from my late tita who've been at us for a time. The household has its own testimony how the life of the people inside it live and struggle. The Christian life is a beautiful struggle.

I just came up thinking that, once you got into a position you need to decide stuff, walang formula, just choose, walang review, tapos tingin ka na lang kay Lord with tears, then instead Lord patawad, Lord ano to?! aaagghhhhh! (sana gets nyo ne?)

Oks, dito na lang. and also its already amihan season, as someone born during this season, somehow I'm glad at less rain and humid. Just a few days it will be 2023, I won't hit 100 days within 2022, hoping I'll continue to write.

He restores my soul; He guides me in the paths of righteousness For His name’s sake.
— Psalms 23:3 LSB

P.S. prayer request: good health for my parents, matapos namin mga project sa work at financial blessing to our family. Salamat